Family Law and Mediation – Is Mediation Appropriate For Me?

Mediation (also known as ‘Family Dispute Resolution) is a powerful tool for resolving parenting child custody and property settlement asset division disputes following separation and divorce, with a greater sense of satisfaction and ownership by the parties of the resulting agreement.

You may be feeling uncertain about whether or not FDR / mediation is ‘appropriate’ for you.

The answer to this question may or may not be obvious, for example:

1. FDR / mediation will be obviously not appropriate if a party refuses an invitation to attend an initial intake meeting with an FDRP / mediator –all FDR / mediations commence with an initial intake session, including risk assessment. The decision to participate in FDR / mediation must be voluntary and cannot be ‘imposed’.
2.  FDR / mediation may be appropriate even if a party expresses concern about a power imbalance and their capacity to participate – alternative modes of FDR / mediation will be considered at the initial intake meeting, including the options of joint sessions, shuttle mediation, remote attendance via skype/telephone/email. The availability of alternative modes enhances access to FDR / mediation.
3. FDR / mediation will be appropriate if both parties consent to attend – a choice of mode of attendance ensures that parties wishing for a non-litigious approach have the opportunity to utilize FDR / mediation notwithstanding concern about doing so.

For more than a decade Vanessa Mathews, accredited family law specialist and accredited FDRP and Mediator, has been providing FDR / mediation services in conjunction with her work as a family lawyer in Melbourne’s eastern suburbs. During this time Vanessa has provided FDR / mediation to hundreds of clients. Whilst there will always be the need for the Family Court to resolve the most complex parenting child custody and property settlement asset division matters, Vanessa continues to be in awe of, and humbled by, clients who choose to take responsibility for their parenting child custody and property settlement asset division and spousal maintenance issues via FDR / mediation – rather than have a Family Court Judge do this for them.

Vanessa is available to assist you to achieve a mediated agreement to:

1. Resolve your parenting issues including:

1. Interim issues:
   i. Child custody following separation, eg shared care
   ii. Single issue disputes, eg choice of school
2. Final issues:
   i. Child custody when one parent wishes to relocate with the children
   ii. Ongoing parenting child custody arrangements
3. Documentation of agreements
   i. Parenting Plan
   ii. Family Court Consent Orders

2. Negotiate property settlement and spousal maintenance issues including:

1. Interim issues:
   i. The use or sale of the home following separation
   ii. Child support
   iii. Spousal maintenance
   iv. Disclosure and valuation of assets
2. Final issues
   i. Property settlement asset division
   ii. Child support
   iii. Spousal maintenance
   iv. Superannuation splitting
3. Finalization of the agreement:
   i. Family Court Consent Orders
   ii. Binding Financial Agreements

Please contact Mathews Family Law & Mediation Specialists on 1300 635 529 to discuss your FDR / mediation needs.

Mathews Family Law & Mediation Specialists offer fixed fees for FDR / Mediation.

In 2019:

• Vanessa Mathews and Mathews Family Law & Mediation Specialists are rated by ‘Three Best Rated’ as one of the three best divorce lawyers in Melbourne.
• Vanessa Mathews is recognized by Doyle’s Guide to the Legal Professional as a ‘Recommended Family Lawyer’ and ‘Recommended Family Law Mediator’ in Melbourne.
• Mathews Family Law & Mediation Specialists won the Global Law Experts Awards for ‘Best Family Law Firm Australia’ and ‘Best Family Law Mediator Australia’ awards.
• Mathews Family Law & Mediation Specialists is a family law firm in the eastern suburbs of Melbourne – Suite 10/1 Grattan Street, Prahran VIC 3181.

Mathews Family Law & Mediation Specialists

Melbourne’s Accredited Family Law Specialists and Mediation Experts

Specialist Family Law Advice. Strategic Resolution. Personal Support.

At Mathews Family Law & Mediation Specialists, we are dedicated exclusively to family law and dispute resolution.

Our Accredited Family Law Specialists assist individuals and families throughout Melbourne, Victoria, Australia and overseas with complex and sensitive family law matters, including separation, divorce, parenting disputes, property settlements, financial agreements and mediation.

Our unique strength is the combination of specialist family law expertise with advanced mediation and dispute resolution skills.

Unlike many family law firms, our Family Dispute Resolution Practitioners (FDRPs) and mediators are also experienced family law specialists. This means our mediations are informed by a detailed understanding of family law principles, negotiation strategy and the practical realities facing families after separation.

A Different Approach to Family Law

Family law disputes do not always need to be resolved through Court proceedings.

At Mathews Family Law & Mediation Specialists, we are committed to helping clients resolve matters efficiently, respectfully and cost-effectively wherever possible.

Our dispute resolution services include:

• Negotiation
• Lawyer-assisted settlement discussions
• Family Dispute Resolution (FDR)
• Mediation
• Collaborative approaches
• Arbitration
• Court representation where required

Our focus is always on finding practical solutions while protecting our clients’ legal rights and long-term interests.

Experienced in Complex Family Law Matters

Our Accredited Family Law Specialists provide advice and representation across all areas of family law, including:

• Divorce and separation
• Parenting arrangements and complex parenting disputes
• International relocation matters
• Property settlements
• Complex financial matters involving businesses, trusts and superannuation
• Binding Financial Agreements
• Family Dispute Resolution and mediation

Every family law matter is unique. We combine technical legal expertise with a genuine understanding of the emotional and financial challenges that arise when relationships break down.

Vanessa Mathews – Accredited Family Law Specialist, FDRP and Mediator

Principal Vanessa Mathews is an Accredited Family Law Specialist, Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner and Mediator.

Vanessa was one of the early Accredited Family Law Specialists to also become accredited as a Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner and Mediator, reflecting her longstanding commitment to helping families resolve disputes constructively.

Her multidisciplinary background provides a unique perspective when assisting clients with complex family law matters. Vanessa holds:

• A Bachelor of Laws
• A Bachelor of Commerce from the University of Melbourne
• A Bachelor of Social Work from the University of Melbourne

This combination of legal, commercial and social work expertise enables Vanessa to understand both the legal complexities and the human impact of family breakdown.

Vanessa and the MFL team regularly contribute to the broader professional community through education and training for:

• Accountants
• Financial advisers
• Mental health professionals
• Allied health organisations
• Community organisations

Through seminars, professional development presentations and community initiatives, Mathews Family Law continues to promote better understanding of family law and dispute resolution.

Boutique Service. Specialist Expertise.

Mathews Family Law combines the personal service of a boutique law firm with the specialist expertise expected from a leading family law practice.

Our clients benefit from:

✔ Direct access to experienced family law specialists
✔ Tailored legal strategies
✔ Strong negotiation and mediation expertise
✔ Clear communication and practical advice
✔ Flexible service options
✔ A commitment to resolving matters efficiently wherever possible

Why Clients Choose Mathews Family Law

Clients choose Mathews Family Law because they want more than legal advice—they want experienced guidance during one of the most challenging periods of their lives.

We provide:

✔ Specialist family law expertise
✔ A resolution-focused approach
✔ Mediation and dispute resolution experience
✔ Personalised strategies for each client’s circumstances
✔ Transparent communication
✔ Flexible options including unbundled and full-service representation

Innovation and Accessible Family Law Services

Mathews Family Law has long embraced technology to improve access to specialist legal advice.

We have developed innovative systems designed to make family law services more accessible, efficient and affordable for clients throughout Australia and overseas.

Our services include:

• Online client information forms
• Digital consultations
• Video conferencing for meetings, mediation and Family Dispute Resolution
• Online payment facilities
• Interactive legal resources and calculators

We also provide a comprehensive library of free educational resources, including:

• Family law articles
• Podcasts
• Webinars
• Videos
• Downloadable guides
• Professional presentations

Our aim is to help people understand their legal options and make informed decisions about their future.

Professional Accreditation and Memberships

Mathews Family Law & Mediation Specialists maintains professional accreditation and membership with leading legal and dispute resolution organisations, including:

• Law Institute of Victoria
• Law Institute of Victoria Family Law Section
• Law Council of Australia Family Law Section
• International Academy of Family Lawyers
• Attorney-General’s Department accredited Family Dispute Resolution Practitioners
• National Mediation Accreditation System
• Australian Institute of Family Law Arbitrators and Mediators
• Resolution Institute
• Victorian Association for Dispute Resolution
• Relationships Australia Access Resolve Mediation Program
• Relationships Australia Family Lawyers Panel

These professional affiliations demonstrate our commitment to excellence, ongoing professional development and the highest standards of family law practice.

Community Commitment and Access to Justice

At Mathews Family Law, we believe access to quality legal information and advice should be available to everyone.

Our commitment to corporate social responsibility is demonstrated through practical initiatives, including:

• Providing free legal information resources
• Offering educational videos and articles
• Publishing family law guides and calculators
• Providing complimentary initial telephone consultations
• Offering fixed-fee services where appropriate
• Providing flexible options including unbundled legal services

Vanessa Mathews’ social work background has contributed to the firm’s strong commitment to supporting the community and improving access to justice.

Award-Winning Melbourne Family Lawyers

Mathews Family Law has been recognised for excellence in family law and mediation.

Recognition includes:

• Winner – Boutique Family Law Firm of the Year, Australia – Global Law Experts
• Winner – Family Law Mediator of the Year, Australia – Global Law Experts
• Finalist – Law Institute of Victoria Boutique Law Firm of the Year
• Recommended Family Law Firm – Doyle’s Guide
• Recommended Family Law Mediator – Doyle’s Guide
• Leading Parenting Lawyer – Doyle’s Guide
• Recognition by ThreeBestRated

These achievements reflect our commitment to specialist expertise, innovative dispute resolution and outstanding client service.

Speak with an Accredited Family Law Specialist

If you require advice about separation, divorce, parenting arrangements, property settlement or mediation, the team at Mathews Family Law & Mediation Specialists is here to help.

Contact us today to arrange your complimentary initial telephone consultation with an Accredited Family Law Specialist.

We will listen to your circumstances, explain your options and help you move forward with confidence.

Frequently Asked Questions About Accredited Family Law Specialists, Mediation and Family Law

What is an Accredited Family Law Specialist?
An Accredited Family Law Specialist is a lawyer who has demonstrated advanced knowledge, skills and experience in the specialised area of family law.
Accreditation is awarded by the relevant state or territory legal professional body after the lawyer has met rigorous requirements, including demonstrating substantial experience in family law, completing specialist assessment processes and maintaining ongoing professional development.
Choosing an Accredited Family Law Specialist provides reassurance that your lawyer has a high level of expertise in areas such as:
Divorce and separation
Property settlements
Parenting disputes
Financial agreements
Family law negotiations
Family dispute resolution
Court proceedings
Family law is complex and constantly evolving. An Accredited Family Law Specialist can provide specialist advice to help you understand your legal rights, obligations and options.
At Mathews Family Law & Mediation Specialists, our Accredited Family Law Specialists focus exclusively on family law and dispute resolution.

Why choose a family law mediator who is also a lawyer?
A mediator who is also an experienced family lawyer brings a deeper understanding of the legal issues that may affect your agreement.
Family law mediation is not simply about finding a compromise. A successful mediation requires an understanding of:
Your legal rights and obligations
The factors that influence a fair outcome
The practical consequences of different settlement options
How agreements can be documented and formalised
At Mathews Family Law & Mediation Specialists, our mediators are also experienced family law professionals. This combination of legal expertise and dispute resolution skills enables us to help families explore practical solutions while ensuring they understand the legal implications of their decisions.

Can family law disputes be resolved without going to Court?
Yes. Many family law disputes can be resolved without Court proceedings.
The Australian family law system encourages separating couples to attempt to resolve disputes through negotiation and dispute resolution wherever appropriate.
Options may include:
Direct negotiation between parties
Lawyer-assisted negotiation
Family Dispute Resolution (FDR)
Mediation
Collaborative law
Arbitration

Resolving matters outside Court can often reduce:
Legal costs
Delay
Conflict
Emotional stress and uncertainty

However, every situation is different. Some matters require Court involvement, particularly where there are significant disagreements, safety concerns, complex financial issues or an inability to reach agreement.
An Accredited Family Law Specialist can help you understand the most appropriate pathway for your circumstances.

What is the difference between mediation and Family Dispute Resolution?
Mediation and Family Dispute Resolution (FDR) are both processes designed to help people resolve disputes without going to Court.
Family Dispute Resolution (FDR) is a specific dispute resolution process recognised under the Family Law Act 1975 and is commonly used for parenting disputes. In many cases, parents must attempt FDR before applying to the Court for parenting orders.
Mediation is a broader dispute resolution process where an independent mediator assists parties to communicate, identify issues and explore possible agreements.
Both processes aim to:
Encourage constructive discussions
Reduce conflict
Help parties reach their own agreements
Avoid unnecessary litigation where possible
At Mathews Family Law & Mediation Specialists, our Family Dispute Resolution Practitioners and mediators have specialist family law experience, allowing us to assist clients with complex parenting, property and financial disputes.

Do I need a family lawyer for a property settlement?
While it is possible to negotiate a property settlement without a lawyer, obtaining specialist legal advice is strongly recommended.
A property settlement involves more than simply dividing assets. Important considerations may include:
The value of assets and liabilities
Superannuation interests
Businesses and trusts
Contributions made during the relationship
Future financial circumstances
Tax implications
How the agreement should be legally formalised
An informal agreement between separated partners may not provide finality and may leave the possibility of future claims.
An Accredited Family Law Specialist can help you understand your entitlements, negotiate effectively and ensure your agreement is properly documented.
At Mathews Family Law & Mediation Specialists, we assist clients with property settlements ranging from straightforward matters to complex financial cases involving significant assets.

How can an Accredited Family Law Specialist help with divorce?
A divorce is the legal process that formally ends a marriage. In Australia, divorce is separate from other family law issues such as property settlement, parenting arrangements and financial matters.
An Accredited Family Law Specialist can assist you by:
Explaining the divorce process
Advising whether you meet the requirements for divorce
Preparing and filing divorce applications
Advising about separation requirements
Addressing issues involving children
Explaining how divorce interacts with property settlement time limits
Although divorce is often an administrative process, separation frequently involves complex legal and financial decisions. Obtaining early specialist advice can help protect your future interests.
At Mathews Family Law & Mediation Specialists, we provide clear advice and practical support to guide clients through separation and divorce. We also offer an fixed-fee online divorce service – divorce-online.com.au

How early should I seek family law advice after separation?
It is usually beneficial to obtain legal advice early, even if you and your former partner are communicating well.
Early advice can help you:
Understand your legal rights and responsibilities
Avoid costly mistakes
Identify opportunities for early resolution
Protect your financial position
Make informed decisions about parenting arrangements
Seeking advice does not mean you are committing to Court proceedings. Often, early specialist advice helps parties resolve matters more efficiently and with less conflict.

Do I have to go to Court to get a family law outcome?
No. Court is only one pathway for resolving family law matters.
Many clients achieve successful outcomes through negotiation, mediation or other dispute resolution processes.
At Mathews Family Law & Mediation Specialists, our approach is resolution-focused. We explore practical alternatives to litigation wherever appropriate while ensuring our clients’ legal rights and interests are protected.
Where Court proceedings are necessary, our experienced family lawyers provide strategic representation.

How can Mathews Family Law & Mediation Specialists help?
Mathews Family Law & Mediation Specialists provides specialist advice and dispute resolution services across all areas of family law, including:
Divorce
Property settlements
Parenting disputes
Family Dispute Resolution
Mediation
Financial agreements
Complex family law matters

Our Accredited Family Law Specialists combine legal expertise, negotiation skills and a commitment to helping clients achieve practical outcomes.
Contact Mathews Family Law & Mediation Specialists to arrange your complimentary initial telephone consultation with an Accredited Family Law Specialist.

About Vanessa Mathews — Accredited Family Law Specialist

Vanessa Mathews
Principal | Accredited Family Law Specialist | Accredited Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner | Mediator

This page was prepared and reviewed by Vanessa Mathews, Principal of Mathews Family Law & Mediation Specialists. Vanessa practises exclusively in family law and assists clients throughout Australia with separation, divorce, parenting disputes, property settlements, financial agreements and other complex family law matters.

Helping families resolve conflict through specialist legal expertise and constructive dispute resolution.

Last reviewed: 24 July 2026

Disclaimer: This page provides general information only and does not constitute legal advice. Every family law matter is different and you should obtain advice tailored to your circumstances.

About Vanessa Mathews — Accredited Family Law Specialist

Vanessa Mathews
Principal | Accredited Family Law Specialist | Accredited Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner | Mediator

This page was prepared and reviewed by Vanessa Mathews, Principal of Mathews Family Law & Mediation Specialists. Vanessa practises exclusively in family law and assists clients throughout Australia with separation, divorce, parenting disputes, property settlements, financial agreements and other complex family law matters.

Helping families resolve conflict through specialist legal expertise and constructive dispute resolution.

Last reviewed: 24 July 2026

Disclaimer: This page provides general information only and does not constitute legal advice. Every family law matter is different and you should obtain advice tailored to your circumstances.